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Okay Fedi, on the below scale whom'st've'd are you taking home from the bar at closing hour? poll is up for two days

Poll (single choice)
Practical
2 votes 14.3%
Sensible
0 votes 0.0%
Sensitive
3 votes 21.4%
Nymphomaniac
4 votes 28.6%
Neurotic
5 votes 35.7%
14 votes total · 14 voters Poll ended

hey I am trying to have a normal relationship with a normal woman but between being a workin' woman and her family she's always busy and I feel like a nuisance so I try not to bother her and I should probably not involve myself but I want to involve myself

Yeah I get it. She was bragging to me about spending an entire day last weekend tidying her property and trimming back brush and stuff and sent me a bunch of pictures and tossed in a wet bikini selfie. She uses iPhone so when I react to her pics she can see that I reacted but doesn't know reacted to which picture so I loved them all except one picture I laughed at and she immediately responded exactly how I wanted. It makes me happy to think about ngl. Been really fucking shitty sad depressed lately so being able to feel good for once is nice

I went to visit my mom yesterday to bring her a breakfast treat and I told her I was just insanely lonely all the time and I found out she's been trying to set me up with a girl I went to school with my whole life. Then she started going through a list of all my ex's she personally liked telling me to talk to them lmfao. Love my mom but sometimes she doesn't get it

It feels like for women their loneliness is assuaged if they have someone, anyone with a pulse to talk at.

For men I think it takes others who actually understand. (So maybe it’s the same for both and women just don’t understand shit).

I sat with my grandfather when he was dying and neither of us had much that needed saying and after a while he said, “This is the nice thing about men, you can just enjoy each other’s company in silence.”
The only cure for male loneliness is doing dumb, but meaningful stuff with the boys.

I also think Erikson’s concept of “generativity” is important much sooner than he states. Men need quests, and quests quite often are for someone else’s benefit (and the loot drops plus xp)

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yeah we have get togethers here with poast fellas a couple times a year it's always a fun time. I got local friends (and local poast friends) but the loneliness I mean is physical touch. Like, I have been sleeping on the couch because the back makes it feel like there's somebody else there so I don't just wake up after an hour or two. I'm not used to being alone like that anymore