I have a problem and it's not a womanizing or a sex problem (i fucking love women btw) or a drug problem or even an alcohol or anything like that problem. I have zero issue abstaining from all of these. I think I need to stop putting people especially people not directly involved in my life before myself. I think I will be a lot more happy if I stop focusing on trying to always solve everybodys problem and just focus on what makes me happy
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4I have like, a hero complex or something. I feel like if there is some way I can solve anybodys issue I always have to be the one to do it. I'm being begged to enter into an agreement that is going to change my life but will just extend somebody elses current life as it is as if nothing changed. It's going to fuck me over for like 3-4 years, it's not going to benefit me at all but it will make sure somebody I care about will be okay. I will bear the entirety of the burden. and if something goes sideways I will bear the entire financial burden too. and for what?
I will be consistently worried about this every day for 4 years, and what happens when 4 years comes up and the help is needed again? "well you already did it for 4 years, whats another 4 years"
I've always been the one people that know me irl turn to for help but like, when is the limit? when I just go like physically crazy or something?
I've always been the one people that know me irl turn to for help but like, when is the limit? when I just go like physically crazy or something?
somebody I am very fond of recently asked something very heavy of me and I want to help because that's how I've always been. I know what it feels like to be at the end of the rope and have nobody there to pull you up. but this is going to emotionally and mentally kill me if I agree to it and if I say no I am going to let down a lot more than just one person. i will be financially tied to this for a minimum of 4 years. it will tie up about 10% of what I have left of my savings from crypto and if it falls through I could lose up to 25%. if things work out, I could double what I have. but I don't want to gamble on the wellbeing of somebody I am fond of. I do not want to mislead these people, but I do not think this is the smart path for these people
I'm not downplaying the severity but it reminds me of my wife and her desire to save every animal on the planet, but especially dogs. I have to tell her all the time: you can't save them all.
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1I can't watch videos where animals get hurt I get irrationally upset and angry